Provider & Protector Mashup

Many years growing up I heard, “get you a man that will provide for and protect your family.”

Provide meaning financially

Protect meaning physically

Yet why wasnt included in that lesson the deep understanding that to protect means to also protect my mind, my position in your life, my heart, my resilience, my vulnerability, my love, my insecurities, my fear, my strength, and amongst many more, also my sensitivity. The flex for a mans view should not only be limited to protection being around addressing a guy for looking at his woman, or fighting because a guy tries to talk to his woman but to fight the temptation to embarrass her with other women, fight your ego to be free of being dismissive and emotionally disrespectful, to fight the urge to be emotionally rigid. To fight giving up, to fight what you think you can’t change when you can, to fight all that forms against her peace of mind, her trust, and you and her progression in love.

Provider viewed as being able to keep food on the table, a roof over the family head, and money flow. Absolutely correct, in addition what about being a provider of knowledge, motivation, a secure love, a safe love, a dependable love, a growing healthy love, a innovative conflict resolving love, a enforcer of growth together kind of love, a supportive kind of love, a lover of fun, and inspiring moments kind of love. A provider of patience, authenticity, passion, vulnerability, courage, loyalty, peace, adventure, elevation, joy, amends, and pursuit of change as needed.

Love is about being triumphant through both your adversities as well as your accomplishments. Furthermore, recognizing the depth around finding a protector and provider significant other may and should possibly have more depth then maybe what was originally taught in ones household, experience, culture, community and or in society.